Lack of self trust is like that person who awkwardly claps when the plane lands..

hear me out!

 

They’re not sure if they wanted to clap because they are really happy the plane landed or they were second guessing themselves and just going with the crowd. No judging because this person with lack of self-trust was me lol

 

Lack  of self-trust can look like difficulty in making decisions and constantly asking or following others for guidance, hiding your authentic self because you’re feeling overly self-conscious and/or afraid of making the wrong decisions and choices and disappointing others.

 

When you don’t trust yourself, you end up going in a million different directions, like I did! Your actions don’t always line up with what matters to you.

 

A conflict can develop between who you are and how you act. That’s when you know you need to take back control of your life and learn how to trust yourself again.

this was totally me right before starting both of my businesses. I was doubting any skill I had to even start, insecure about showing up as who I was, constantly seeking validations from others, feeling like I had to have so much control to make the “right” decision, and more! but i was showing up online like I was I was an expert.

 

it just didn’t feel right. didn’t feel real. But everyone else seemed to show up perfect so I felt like I had to match everyone else. When in reality, being ME - being different was my magic! What was going to make ME stand out! What was going to connect me with my dream clients I can really help!

 

Some ways that helped me gain self-trust and can help you, too!

 

Start small and set achievable goals for yourself. When you accomplish these goals, it will create a sense of self-confidence and trust. Something as small as making your bed every day. I know it sounds silly, but it truly works!

Keep your promises to yourself. When you make a commitment to do something, follow through with it. If you say you’re going to do it - DO IT!

Take responsibility for your actions. Acknowledge when you make a mistake and learn from it.

Listen to your intuition. Trust your instincts and make decisions based on what feels right for you. NOT someone else!

Be patient with yourself. Trust is not built overnight, it takes time and effort. Be kind and patient with yourself as you work towards gaining self-trust.

 

Thoughts on these?

 

I’m hoping these helped!!

XO,

Gem